Sex Ed: Tracey Cox

WARNING: This is NSFW, Not Safe For Work. (UPDATE: Sep 28/2013)

Tracey Cox (b. 1961, England) is a non fiction author specializing in books about dating, sex, and relationships. She is a former associate editor of Cosmopolitan (Australia) and a radio show host. As a TV presenter about sex and relationships, she has worked on The Sex Inspectors (Ch4 and HBO in the US), Would Like to Meet (BBC2), Under One Roof (ITV) and Date Patrol (Discovery in the US). She has apparently sold over 2 million books with six titles as international bestsellers.

15 Ways to get him hard
Everybody knows the magazine Cosmopolitan or Cosmo for short, and it seemed like an appropriate source for an example of the sex advice dispensed by Tracey Cox. In the January 26, 2011 article entitled "15 Ways to get him hard" with the tagline "Sexpert Tracey Cox shows you how to turn him and you on in an instant", the mag starts off with this declaration labelled "The Great Sex Guide":

"Don’t ask for sex – just take it!" Is the advice from sexpert and author of Supersex For Life, Tracey Cox. This type of sex schooling is the kind that Cosmo is 100% behind, which is why we’re sharing Tracey’s skills to get him (and you) going…

The accompanying picture of a woman dressed in a garter belt holding a whip while standing over a man in a somewhat prone picture on the floor says it all. Oh boy, I'm in trouble! (FYI: Each of the 15 ways has an associated picture which illustrates the point being made.)

1. Feel him up in public
Choose a restaurant that has long tablecloths, unzip him, and deliver a discreet but delicious mini-hand-job (minus the happy ending, obviously).

2. Snog [kiss] him sexily in front of his friends
Makes him look and feel like a Rock God, and his friends see how much you want him.

3. Let him see you
He’s a natural voyeur so choose positions where he can see your breasts bouncing up and down. Let him open your legs wide to see your vulva before giving you oral.

4. Use your hands
Put your fingers inside yourself while he’s watching or let him insert a vibrator, a dildo, or some love eggs. Men like seeing things disappear inside – and it’s not just his penis.

6. Get naked in the changing room
Get him to wait outside the fitting room while you try on clothes, then invite him in after you strip off. He’s fully clothed, you’re naked – you can get away with him giving you two minutes of oral before the shop assistants get suspicious.

7.Leave filthy photos in places where he least expects them
Use a Polaroid to take up-close-and-personals. And I mean up close. (To us, it’s not pretty; to him, it’s an oil painting.) Tape one of the photos to the bathroom mirror as he’s having a shower and then wait for him in the most brazen pose you can live with.

8. Let him know you lust after him as much as he lusts after you
“I’m never convinced she really enjoys it” is something men tell me all the time. Make noise, move, hire a plane to stream a message across the sky – let there be no doubt!

10. Invest in some "slutty" stuff purely for wearing at home for him
Skyscraper stilettos, tops slit to the navel, skirts so short you might as well just be wearing a thong…

12. Play the no panties game
It’s especially effective if you flash or tell him you’re commando in situations where he can’t ravish you. Go to the bathroom at that stuffy dinner party, take your panties off, and discreetly, under cover of the tablecloth, push them into his trouser pocket when you sit back down again.

A comment
I couldn't help thinking as I read the above article that this woman knows men. Feel him up in public? Treat him as Rock God? He's a natural voyeur? Does every woman know these things? My answer would be, "No." If at one time we have done these couple things, do we forget over time? Years ago in another era, my date and I got all dressed up for a special dinner with her entire family. Just as we were about to go out the door, she reached under her dress, took off her panties, then arranged them in the breast pocket of my suit so it looked like I had a pocket handkerchief. We had a wonderful evening with the family made all that much more amusing by the two of us sharing this naughty secret. Silly? Stupid? I'm convinced those silly things are the ties that bind us.

Books
Ms. Cox has been busy penning what appears to be a need to be filled in the literary marketplace. As I said, over 2 million books sold with six titles as international bestsellers.

Hot Sex [Corgi Books, 1998], Amazon
"Sex is a bit like typing," explains Australian sex writer Tracey Cox in Hot Sex. "You can get by using two fingers, but you'll never be as good as someone who did the secretarial course and practiced every night." Cox provides the "secretarial course," starting with 27 pages on masturbation and continuing through variations and nuances of every sex act a man and woman might do together. You get explicit lessons in erotic massage, oral sex, intercourse positions (including "orgasm potential for her" and "how to make it even better"), and much more. Equal time is given to men and women, with the sections labeled for quick reference.

This book is ideal for the sexual novice (it includes a first-timer's guide), or for someone who hasn't felt confident enough to experiment. Sexually experienced readers will learn how to understand themselves and their partners better, such as how to make your orgasm last 1,790 times longer, and how to find the A-spot (halfway between the cervix and the G-spot). The writing style is lively, sexy, and often funny, with comments such as, "People on soap operas have simultaneous orgasms more often than they eat breakfast but it's a little different in the real world," and earthy advice like, "Go for it. Make so much noise, your neighbours consider double-glazing their windows." --Joan Price

Hot Relationships [Corgi Books, 1999]
Would Like To Meet (with Jeremy Milnes and Jay Hunt) [BBC Worldwide, 2002]
Supersex [Dorling Kindersley Limited, 2002]
Superflirt [Dorling Kindersley Limited, 2003]
Superdate [Dorling Kindersley Limited, 2005]
Quickies (Dorling Kindersley Limited)
The Sex inspectors Masterclass (BBC books)
Superhotsex [Dorling Kindersley Limited, 2006]
The Sex doctor (Corgi Books)
The Kama Sutra (Dorling Kindersley Limited)
Sextasy

Final Word
The world is a big place and there is much I don't know. Tracey Cox? Never heard of her, but as I always joke, I've led a sheltered life. I know that the magazine Cosmo has a bit of a joke reputation for a type of 10 question quiz which is going to reveal all your problems and solve them forthwith. Not being a reader, I will have to leave it up to those who do read the magazine to judge it as good or bad. Nevertheless, while risqué, I did find Ms. Cox's article mentioned above to be interesting and informative. I don't know how many people would read such an article and dismiss it as being silly or stupid, but I do have to ask if we sometimes don't need just a bit more silly in our lives.


References

Wikipedia: Tracey Cox
Tracey Cox (born 1961, Exeter, Devon, England) is a non fiction author who specializes in books on dating, sex and relationships.

official web site: Tracey Cox
Looking for clever, cunning ways to improve your sex, relationship, flirting or body language skills?

Twitter: Tracey Cox

Google image search: "Tracey Cox" sexpert

Google video search: "Tracey Cox" sexpert

Scribd: Tracey Cox: Supersex
[This appears to be the entire book on-line. You have options to download the copy to your own computer as a PDF for a fee.]

Wikipedia: Cosmopolitan (magazine)
Cosmopolitan is an international magazine for women. It was first published in 1886 in the United States as a family magazine, was later transformed into a literary magazine and eventually became a women's magazine in the late 1960s. Also known as Cosmo, its current content includes articles on relationships and sex, health, careers, self-improvement, celebrities, as well as fashion and beauty. Published by Hearst Magazines, Cosmopolitan has 63 international editions, is printed in 36 languages and is distributed in more than 100 countries.

IMDb: Tracey Cox
Filmography: listing of her TV and film appearances

Mail Online - Sep 26/2013
Why speed dating celebrities teach us bad habits about relationships by Tracey Cox
We learn lots of bad habits from celebrities (how to get tangoed, why one layer of lashes is never enough) but the absolute worst in my eyes is breaking the speed limit when it comes to relationships. ... They’ve met, married and practically had babies in the time most normal people have gone on a few dates.

Mail Online - Sep 11/2013
Why is the NHS ignoring erectile dysfunction when it is the number one sex problem for men? by Tracey Cox
ED is a source of huge distress to men worldwide, according to the results of a new global survey of 1,500 men with the condition. ... More than half of all men aged between 50 and 70 suffer from it and 77 per cent of couples say their enjoyment of the relationship is affected by it. Yet only 10 percent of men will seek treatment from their doctor and around a third wait six months to bring it up with their partner.

Mail Online - Sep 4/2013
Looking for the secret that will make your marriage last? Love is NOT the answer by Tracey Cox
* The answer is commitment and working on problems instead of leaving
* Long-term relationships throw a lot at couples so dedication is needed
* More sex also helps as it is a bonding experience for most couples

Mail Online - Dec 20/2012
The sexless marriage: Should you leave if you aren't getting enough? by Tracey Cox
Sadly, marriage itself is sometimes to blame for a sorry sex life because women often don’t marry the people we click with sexually. We’ll happily attach our lips and hips to that the pretty-but-pretty-thick hottie for a five-week flingette but choose long-term lovers for different reasons. Factors like kindness, stability, intelligence and emotional intelligence take precedence. Which is all terribly sensible but sexual attraction is fundamental: if it’s not there, it’s not there.

A relationship stripped of the intimacy and physical closeness which sex provides feels hollow: the person who is supposed to find you attractive, sexy and desirable doesn’t. Who wants to live with that?

2011-04-24

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